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A nice talk...And my babble

Quote of the day:
A best friend is someone who makes you laugh, even when the jokes aren't funny"
*Warning* *This blog post may be longer and more boring than most*
I had the greatest conversation with a friend of mine today. She is a full time working mother, and was venting about a friend of hers who is her same age, and not yet a mother. We were talking about how different your priorities become once you have a family, and how terribly self absorbed we used to be. It is amazing how much life changes once you hold a baby in your arms. Things that mattered in the past such as a fancy engagement ring or a swanky purse no longer make our hearts sing. They once did, Oh, yes, there was a day when those materialistic things mattered in such a deep and fulfilling way. Don't get me wrong, I like nice things, I love nice things, and I love my ring,(examples of what she was speaking of) but it is the story behind my ring that I love more than anything. My husband created that story for me, and every day we are able to add more to our chapters.
The more she talked, the more I remembered the days when I "needed" material things. Those things impressed people, those things impressed me. I am no longer that person, and I haven't been in a very long time. There is nothing wrong with loving nice things and wanting nice things. Nothing at all. It just isn't what makes ME who I am anymore. It isn't what matters to ME anymore. I am no longer defined by my things. The more she and I spoke the more I realized that statement, and the truth behind it.
The people closest to me have been pretty unaware(or maybe you haven't), but I have been having an internal battle within myself for awhile now about what defines me. I always had this image of myself being something different. I never saw myself as a mother. I thought I would make a difference in the lives of other people in a way that was extraordinary. I chose a different path, and I have never been happier about any decision I have ever made.
I like to cook, but I am no expert and I learn something new every day. I am a Mother. I'm not the greatest, but I love that I have been blessed with this roll in life and I will cherish every challenge and every triumph that God gives me. I am not extraordinary. The things I am "not" are on a grand scale, but that makes me who I am. That defines me. And I have decided that I love my definition.
Thank you for the chat.

wow! you are so very cool my friend!

You do make an extraordinary difference every day!! In the lives of Connor, Jordyn, Patrick and anyone else who is lucky enough to call you friend or family. I think you are doing exactly what you are meant to do and you are better at it than anyone I know.
You are a beautiful person inside and out. So keep on doing what you're doing:)

i love this-i love that you have reminded me of this. and i love that we have shared our mother journeys with each other since we began. and i also love that you and missy are now friends. that right there makes my heart very, very happy :)

I think you're extraordinary! and a VERY cool mom! MorAn.

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